Therapist-designed intimacy exercises for you and your partner
Pillow is a mobile app that offers tools for couples to connect more deeply. You and your partner can build intimacy and rekindle desire in just a few minutes. Press play, ditch the screen, and listen along.
Quick and easy to start
Personalized for your relationship
Pillow is such a masterful and yet simple tool to encourage couples to carve out space for connection and pleasure together. We have found this to be such a gift in our marriage of over 20 years to spark new ways to connect and to be more mindful of the gift we are to one another. I cannot recommend this highly enough!
– Emily Huff, Pillow User
• 5+ hours of audio
• 30+ exercises from therapists, coaches, and tantra teachers
• 30,000+ downloads (iOS)
• Hundreds of paid users (lifetime access or monthly subscription)
• Featured in Glamour, Marie Claire, Thrillist, Salon, and Wired
• 30+ experts ready to create couples exercises
All this just by bootstrapping.
Your investment will help us accelerate.
Some of our 30+ episodes
The Market is Ready
Expected Value of Sexual Wellness Market in 2019
Up 45% from 2014
What we'll do with...
- 6 month runway
- Build out iOS app with personalised onboarding to improve conversion metrics. Couples reminders, episode "quickies," ritualised episodes and filtering.
- 25+ new episodes
- Marketing budget to reach an estimated 2,000 subscribers
- 9 month runway
- Rebuild iOS as before, plus budget for reminders, episode 'quickies', ritualised episodes and filtering
- 50+ new episodes
- Marketing budget to reach an estimated 4,000 subscribers
- 12 month runway
- iOS as before
- Android app
- 100+ new episodes
- Marketing budget to reach an estimated 6,000 subscribers
Are you a Couples Expert?
If you are a Therapist, Coach, Facilitator, Counselor, or a similar expert in intimacy, relationships, human-connection, or tantra and are interested in crafting exercises with us - become a Love Ambassador!
Founder Dazz’s Personal Story
Many of us have experienced the slow (but often inevitable) decline of lustful passion and open intimate exploration in their relationship. It happened to me over and over again in each relationship I had! Was I doing something wrong? Why was this happening? Why can’t it be this exciting forever? What could I do to keep it going? Are there tools or books or services that might help? I later discovered this was well documented as “The Honeymoon Phase.” But I didn’t want it to end again!
Maybe I was destined to be polyamorous, not commit for life, or never be faithful to my partner? I knew I had so much more to learn - and so began my journey of exploration into love, intimacy, sex, and human-connection.
It was 3 years ago this month that I started on this path. I’ve been through the highs and lows of emotions, 7 countries, many incredible partners, learned from tantra experts, relationship therapists and sexologists, read a ton of books, attended workshops and festivals, watched day’s worth of educational videos and experienced deep vulnerability like never before. And there’s so much to share with you!
I met a wonderful Psychosexual Therapist on my journey, Kate Moyle. Kate’s astute understanding of how technology is affecting relationships today led us to explore an idea together...what if we could use technology to actually bring couples closer and not separate us? Not in a cheesy way like those terrible ‘sex position’ apps or ‘spin the bottle’ games, but with proven methodologies and practices? You see, the most powerful growth for me came when a space was held for my partner and me to listen to the subtleties of our emotions without acting out unconscious behaviour.
In this beautiful (and uncomfortable) space of the unknown, you become aware of the depths of self. And thus then learn how to relate better. The way this space is held by intimacy teachers, therapists, and facilitators differ as much as the personality of each professional, but we could call the well-crafted space that experts guide couples through an “intimacy exercise.”
These wonderful intimacy exercises are being used in workshops, retreats, therapy rooms, marriage books, and festivals all over the world and are showing millions of people that there are depths of love and presence that most young people are missing out on. Especially given the proliferation of dating apps, a whole generation is experiencing shorter and shallower relationships focused on hookups!
These exercises nurture a variety of soft skills that aren’t usually given priority in our western education system — skills such as empathy, openness, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, patience, self-acceptance, permission-giving, and more. Having built a handful of prototypes, spoken to over a hundred professionals, and received a warm reception from couples who have played with Pillow, we believe that we are solving a real need in a multi-billion dollar market. As Cindy Gallop recently said, “Every other big bet ever made in the history of tech pales against sex-tech.” We couldn’t agree more!
Our Progress So Far
Prototyping product concepts
Recommended by renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel
Highlighted as a tool for couples in her online course, "Rekindling Desire."
Jesse Maestro joins Pillow as Co-founder
He founded two companies prior to Pillow, and has a growth and operational background.
Let's bring intimacy back into our relationships
Have you seen the world lately? We’re being bombarded left and right with fear and pain, war, and suffering. All the news seems to talk about is what’s wrong with the world. We’re living in a world focused on separation and conflict. There is a better way.
As our world moves to balance itself out - we need new ways to teach togetherness, love, and compassion. New ways to teach the delicacies of emotion and the healing power that our heart has over the self and others. We’ve been stuck for too long in our heads - and must return to our hearts.
The left brain, masculine dominated age is coming to an end. The transition is going to either be catastrophic, or peaceful. We get to choose through action.
That’s why, more than ever, we must teach the west softness. To be kind, genuine, honest, and truthful to our core. We need to stop looking outwards for answers and instead, show the world how to look inwards. There are incredible teachers of love all over the world, and it is our duty to amplify their voice.
It is my belief that consumer mobile technology is the most powerful behavior change agent of our time. The smartphone is already being taken into 3+ billion bedrooms, and partnerships, relationships, and marriages are the bedrock of the society we live in. If we can teach every couple how to be just a little more compassionate, more patient, more open, more appreciative and more loving … then that will bubble out of the home, into our workplace, and into our society as a whole.
This is our stance. We envision a platform as big as the most popular dating apps because we’re essentially delivering the same need - intimate human connection. But with depth.
Please support us in whichever way you can - spreading the word to your friends, contributing to exercise creation, or investing to become part of something significantly worthwhile.
Let’s get to work.
Darren J. Smith