It was 3 years ago this month that I started on this path. I’ve been through the highs and lows of emotions, 7 countries, many incredible partners, learned from tantra experts, relationship therapists and sexologists, read a ton of books, attended workshops and festivals, watched day’s worth of educational videos and experienced deep vulnerability like never before. And there’s so much to share with you!

I met a wonderful Psychosexual Therapist on my journey, Kate Moyle. Kate’s astute understanding of how technology is affecting relationships today led us to explore an idea together...what if we could use technology to actually bring couples closer and not separate us? Not in a cheesy way like those terrible ‘sex position’ apps or ‘spin the bottle’ games, but with proven methodologies and practices? You see, the most powerful growth for me came when a space was held for my partner and me to listen to the subtleties of our emotions without acting out unconscious behaviour.

In this beautiful (and uncomfortable) space of the unknown, you become aware of the depths of self. And thus then learn how to relate better. The way this space is held by intimacy teachers, therapists, and facilitators differ as much as the personality of each professional, but we could call the well-crafted space that experts guide couples through an “intimacy exercise.”

These wonderful intimacy exercises are being used in workshops, retreats, therapy rooms, marriage books, and festivals all over the world and are showing millions of people that there are depths of love and presence that most young people are missing out on. Especially given the proliferation of dating apps, a whole generation is experiencing shorter and shallower relationships focused on hookups!

These exercises nurture a variety of soft skills that aren’t usually given priority in our western education system — skills such as empathy, openness, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, patience, self-acceptance, permission-giving, and more. Having built a handful of prototypes, spoken to over a hundred professionals, and received a warm reception from couples who have played with Pillow, we believe that we are solving a real need in a multi-billion dollar market. As Cindy Gallop recently said, “Every other big bet ever made in the history of tech pales against sex-tech.” We couldn’t agree more!